Comments on: Rest in Peace, Scott Coles

By: /pd

/pd — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 18:46:00 +0000

Folks take a chill pill !! Whether the verbiage is “alleged”, “apparent ” or “idiotic guesses” – does that really matter ?

A Person has died, they leave behind loved ones. Empathize rather then criticize.

The Mortgage Crisis is effecting everyone, slowly or later it will come close to you. This is happening and it will take its toll one way or the other. Mentally, physically and financially. Infighting and bad vibes to one another will not take this crisis away or the fact that people are directly or indirectly deeply effected.

The American Dream had become a nightmare and this is just the tip of the iceberg. The emotional toll will be high , very high.
Remember, all you have is one another to lean on. Respect that fact and thereby respecting yourself !!

By: Trula

Trula — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 18:14:32 +0000

Francine. I understand that you meant well and loved your friend. I do think however it is too soon, much too soon, for anyone to publicly speculate on the reasons for why your friend chose to end his life (if indeed he did this, which hasn’t been confirmed). He has not even been buried yet…when someone’s body has not been interred/cremated/memorialized over yet it does seem kind of ghoulish to talk about them in this way, to imply what they could have or should have done.

I would also like to gently suggest that you consider this man’s children…one day they will be older and would like to read good things about their dad, written by people who knew their dad. You can choose to write about the good things you valued in your friend, without all the other stuff. His wife, his kids, they know more than anyone that he could have chosen to do different (if indeed he did end his own life), they really are not served by this post which is condemning.

I have known two people who died by apparent suicide, one a young acquaintance and the other a close friend. In both cases suicide was later ruled out by autopsy. In both cases right away people posted all over the internet suicide as cause of death. I understand that you put ‘apparently’ but that is just like calling someone an ‘alleged’ rapist. This is not some newspaper story about someone you don’t know. It’s a personal blog post about someone you say was a close friend. Be kind, to your friend. Respect his memory and his family.

and many hugs to you, for your grief.

By: GeekMommy

GeekMommy — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 18:06:49 +0000

So, let me get this straight – Francine is grieving for the loss of her friend, and trying to understand the reasons for his untimely loss – and some folks who aren’t even brave enough to put real contact information come here and attack her for that?

Yeah, way to make the loss of an obviously good guy even worse for someone.

Before you come and post something rude? Think twice. You aren’t honoring the memory of Mr. Coles – may he rest in peace.

By: I'm not saying - too many haters

I'm not saying - too many haters — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 17:06:10 +0000

Wow. Francine, I don’t know anybody involved, but it was clear that your post was a tenderhearted expression.
The article you linked to says “Coles died after an apparent suicide, …” Gee… Where could you possibly have gotten the idea that he committed suicide?
And now these quite hostile people are calling you names on behalf of your friend, who isn’t here to clear things up? I’ve never seen anything like that.
My sympathies on your loss.

By: Joseph Lee

Joseph Lee — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:44:55 +0000

He thought you were a “Nebbish” and your diatribe confirms his opinion. How Dare You who has accomplished nothing but words denigrate someone that has accomplished so much and given so much to so many?
No one is interested in your idiotic guesses, and it is too bad he is not here to refute that he would ever discuss anything with you.

By: Francine hardaway

Francine hardaway — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 06:13:46 +0000

I certainly wasn’t meaning to assassinate his character. I loved him, and had several conversations with him lately about how he was feeling and offered to help him many times. I felt a great deal of empathy with him, because I went through the real estate decline in the 80s with another Arizona real estate icon who nearly did the same thing. It’s the most sensitive and caring people who sometimes feel too much pain from these real estate downturns.

Scott was a man who wanted to find solutions, and who took his personal responsibility for investors very seriously. If that’s not what came across in my piece, I’m sorry.

I also know of other personal problems, but choose not to write about them.

Not at all a character assassination. Please read it as a way for one grieving person, who happens to write, to express her love.

By: accolyte

accolyte — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 23:37:01 +0000

Francine, what a way to honour “friend”, Scott Coles: your commentary is pretty close to assasinating his charecter with a lots of speculations and guessing on your part.

By: Francine hardaway

Francine hardaway — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:07:59 +0000

Here is the link to the information I used, for those of you who have requeted it. I meant to honor Scott, not offend. http://www.transworldnews.com/NewsStory.aspx?id=49344&cat=1

By: accolyte

accolyte — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 19:12:31 +0000

Hi Francine as thomas requested we are all curious to see a link for the press release you had eluded to, it would be nice if you can substantiate your statements before you put them in the blogoshphere. We are all waiting for your response and to the link (if there is one)

By: thomas

thomas — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 18:07:49 +0000

Coles was found deceased in his residence, said Andy Hill, Phoenix police spokesman.

The cause and manner of death will be determined by the medical examiner, Hill said. There are no obvious signs of foul play, Hill said

cant find that press release from bank examiners?
I thought not